An Ode to Un-requainted Love

An Ode to Un-requainted Love.

Un-requainted love is probably one of the most excruciating experiences that there is. At least it feels that way to me. Love, such a delicate flower, it's blossoming is like the miracle of nature itself, a force like the rising of the sun, it's a complete and utter mystery.

When love happens, it's a blessing from the divine. It's appearance, numinous. It opens me up beyond the layers of my own reality. There is something ecstatic about the uncertainty, something dangerous about the unknown taste of love. It's destabilizing, hugely vulnerable, humbles me to my knees.

And when it's un-requainted, I've come to see there are one of two options. Let it shut me down or let it open me up because at the end of the day it's not love thats un-requainted, it's the not being met in the field of love thats un-requainted. Love still exists and thats as pure as the light of day.

It's taken me many years to get to the point where un-requainted love can open me up. I've spent many a years suffering when I felt rejected in my desire to love. I'd take it personally, feeling like there was something I did or didn't do. And sure, the pain of rejection still exists but now something else happens.

By fully embracing the heart break and the longing, opening my body and soul to experience the full scope of the emotion, I'm actually taken deeper into love. When I let myself be ripped open by the depths of my humanness I'm taken into full expansion of my divinity and in that my capacity to love. It's hugely paradoxical. It makes no sense to the mind but I now see that I have nothing to fear. I am free to love.

I just did a quick search about un-requainted love and found this on wikipedia...

"Eric Berne considered that "the man who is loved by a woman is lucky indeed, but the one to be envied is he who loves, however little he gets in return. How much greater is Dante gazing at Beatrice than Beatrice walking by him in apparent disdain"."

At the end of the day what's important is LOVE. The child in us needs to be received, the woman or man of us, is free to let love runs its course, where it's a eye gaze or a lifetime of marriage. Let loves presence open us to the true magnitude of our existence, because love is numinous. It's the human and the divine in one crazy basket.

And according to Wikipedia, Roman poet Ovid in his Remedia Amoris "provides advice on how to overcome inappropriate or unrequited love. The solutions offered include travel, teetotalism, bucolic pursuits, and ironically, avoidance of love poets"

Whilst I agree with travel and bucolic pursuits you can count on it that I'll be driking wine and writing love poetry till the end of my days.